TheRavenHasLanded he/him Posted February 21 Report Share Posted February 21 17 hours ago, Just-A-Stick said: *sigh* Guys, I'm trying to talk to this guy, and I think he just doesn't care that much... He kinda just ghosts a lot and I feel like I have to carry the convo by myself, and everything feels tight and awkward... It's almost stressful, cause I don't know how to act anymore...? Help me plz o-O just be straight about it. just flat out ask him. also, i have no brain cells so take that with a grain of salt, i likely wouldnt do that myself, just what i would do idealized. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Immortal Platypus Posted February 21 Report Share Posted February 21 On 2/19/2024 at 4:18 PM, Edema Rue said: Man what do we do when NO one can make the first move?? How do we…how…THERE HAVE BEEN THREE FRIDGIN GIRLS CHOICE DANCES IN A ROW WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO L Making the first move is fetching scary! Then again, social interaction is scary... 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
InfiniteInsanity she/her Posted February 21 Report Share Posted February 21 On 2/19/2024 at 5:18 PM, Edema Rue said: Man what do we do when NO one can make the first move?? How do we…how…THERE HAVE BEEN THREE FRIDGIN GIRLS CHOICE DANCES IN A ROW WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO Last dance I was at there was a girl's choice dance and all the guys were in the middle of the dance area... so they were surrounded by every one who was dancing and pretty much impossible to get to. Also it's a lot less intimidating if you take a buddy or two and you find a group of guys with the same number of buddies that you are taking and you all go ask them. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheRavenHasLanded he/him Posted February 21 Report Share Posted February 21 1 minute ago, InfiniteInsanity said: Last dance I was at there was a girl's choice dance and all the guys were in the middle of the dance area... so they were surrounded by every one who was dancing and pretty much impossible to get to. Also it's a lot less intimidating if you take a buddy or two and you find a group of guys with the same number of buddies that you are taking and you all go ask them. im the one guy sitting on the outside corner most of the time. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thaidakar the Ghostblood he/him Posted February 21 Report Share Posted February 21 On 2/19/2024 at 3:18 PM, Edema Rue said: Man what do we do when NO one can make the first move?? How do we…how…THERE HAVE BEEN THREE FRIDGIN GIRLS CHOICE DANCES IN A ROW WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO You get it now. Welcome to the club. what you do then is approach a random guy and ask him to dance. Nothing bad will happen. Imagine what you say when a guy asks you to dance and he’ll say something like that. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cash67 Where’s/Perry Posted February 21 Report Share Posted February 21 19 minutes ago, Thaidakar the Ghostblood said: You get it now. Welcome to the club. what you do then is approach a random guy and ask him to dance. Nothing bad will happen. Imagine what you say when a guy asks you to dance and he’ll say something like that. So if someone says no to dancing you awkwardly chacha away. 1 hour ago, InfiniteInsanity said: Last dance I was at there was a girl's choice dance and all the guys were in the middle of the dance area... so they were surrounded by every one who was dancing and pretty much impossible to get to. Also it's a lot less intimidating if you take a buddy or two and you find a group of guys with the same number of buddies that you are taking and you all go ask them. TRUE. The first dance I went to this happened. One of the most fun nights I've had. Also had some of the most fun pictures. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thaidakar the Ghostblood he/him Posted February 21 Report Share Posted February 21 Just now, Cash67 said: So if someone says no to dancing you awkwardly chacha away. Precisely! That is how the game is played. it’s this way that we will get the girls to understand our pain. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cash67 Where’s/Perry Posted February 21 Report Share Posted February 21 3 minutes ago, Thaidakar the Ghostblood said: Precisely! That is how the game is played. it’s this way that we will get the girls to understand our pain. EVERYONE MUST JOIN THE AWKWARD CHACHA 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jamesbondsmith He/him Posted February 21 Report Share Posted February 21 21 hours ago, Just-A-Stick said: *sigh* Guys, I'm trying to talk to this guy, and I think he just doesn't care that much... He kinda just ghosts a lot and I feel like I have to carry the convo by myself, and everything feels tight and awkward... It's almost stressful, cause I don't know how to act anymore...? Help me plz o-O I'd like to give advice going both directions, if you don't mind. Firstly, I've been in the position of being somewhat cold towards someone I was into. It could be due to nerves, not feeling like you're worthy of them, or having baggage to deal with before you're ready to pursue them. Whether you want to pursue something with them under those circumstances is up to you. Alternatively, as I put in an above post, you'll have a rough time if you expect rules not to apply to you. If someone is cold, it could be because they're actually into you but they aren't sure how to go about it, or it could be because they aren't interested. I know it probably gets repeated, but the best course of action is to be brave and ask bluntly. Guys especially aren't good at picking up hints (I'm pretty sure I've talked myself out of things that could have been hints because of previous experiences). Besides, a good relationship requires honesty. Also, here's a meme: 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Edema Rue she/her Posted February 21 Report Share Posted February 21 3 hours ago, Thaidakar the Ghostblood said: You get it now. Welcome to the club. what you do then is approach a random guy and ask him to dance. Nothing bad will happen. Imagine what you say when a guy asks you to dance and he’ll say something like that. No no no but I could ask them… except all my guy friends have significant others. AND IM FRIENDS WITH THEIR SIGNIFICANT OTHERS so I can’t just do it to spite them 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thaidakar the Ghostblood he/him Posted February 21 Report Share Posted February 21 2 minutes ago, Edema Rue said: No no no but I could ask them… except all my guy friends have significant others. AND IM FRIENDS WITH THEIR SIGNIFICANT OTHERS so I can’t just do it to spite them Yes, but you can dance with people other than your friends... It's what we awkward guys have to do all the time. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Edema Rue she/her Posted February 21 Report Share Posted February 21 10 minutes ago, Thaidakar the Ghostblood said: Yes, but you can dance with people other than your friends... It's what we awkward guys have to do all the time. Right but to go to the dance...you need to go with people... 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thaidakar the Ghostblood he/him Posted February 21 Report Share Posted February 21 1 minute ago, Edema Rue said: Right but to go to the dance...you need to go with people... Not necessarily. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoyalBeeMage he/him Posted February 21 Report Share Posted February 21 6 hours ago, Cash67 said: EVERYONE MUST JOIN THE AWKWARD CHACHA JOIN THE CHACHA 3 hours ago, Edema Rue said: Right but to go to the dance...you need to go with people... You could always just show up with no intention to dance 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thaidakar the Ghostblood he/him Posted February 22 Report Share Posted February 22 40 minutes ago, RoyalBeeMage said: You could always just show up with no intention to dance You could show up with the intention to dance without a group of people 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Edema Rue she/her Posted February 22 Report Share Posted February 22 52 minutes ago, RoyalBeeMage said: JOIN THE CHACHA You could always just show up with no intention to dance 11 minutes ago, Thaidakar the Ghostblood said: You could show up with the intention to dance without a group of people You guys You must understand I’m not a nerd I like social interaction 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cash67 Where’s/Perry Posted February 22 Report Share Posted February 22 Just now, Edema Rue said: You guys You must understand I’m not a nerd I like social interaction The two ain’t exclusive. I happen to both be a nerd and like social interaction! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thaidakar the Ghostblood he/him Posted February 22 Report Share Posted February 22 5 minutes ago, Edema Rue said: You guys You must understand I’m not a nerd I like social interaction I do too, that is why you go up to x random guy and say "Hey, do you wanna dance?" during the girls choice ones. And, a good way to get people to dance with people is walk slowly around without a pack of others around you and don't look like you're explicitly wanting to dance with someone, a little bit, but not solely that. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lego Mistborn he/him Posted February 22 Report Share Posted February 22 Don't wait for the girls choice one. Unless you live a in puritan community, nobody will be upset with you. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Immortal Platypus Posted February 22 Report Share Posted February 22 1 hour ago, Edema Rue said: You guys You must understand I’m not a nerd I like social interaction lies. you are a nerd, but that doesn't mean you can't like being social. Some of the biggest nerds I know are extroverts 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoyalBeeMage he/him Posted February 22 Report Share Posted February 22 2 hours ago, Cash67 said: The two ain’t exclusive. I happen to both be a nerd and like social interaction! 1 hour ago, Immortal Platypus said: lies. you are a nerd, but that doesn't mean you can't like being social. Some of the biggest nerds I know are extroverts i love social interaction and i am an insanely big nerd. you can be both. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cash67 Where’s/Perry Posted February 22 Report Share Posted February 22 14 hours ago, Edema Rue said: You guys You must understand I’m not a nerd I like social interaction Also counterpoint to you not being a nerd... you showed up to DS 2023..... ONE OF US! ONE OF US! ONE OF US! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Edema Rue she/her Posted February 22 Report Share Posted February 22 1 hour ago, Cash67 said: Also counterpoint to you not being a nerd... you showed up to DS 2023..... ONE OF US! ONE OF US! ONE OF US! NOOOOOOOOOO I'M NOT A NERD I JUST LIKE BOOKS 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The cheeseman Sola Scriptora Posted February 22 Report Share Posted February 22 5 minutes ago, Edema Rue said: NOOOOOOOOOO I'M NOT A NERD I JUST LIKE BOOKS YOU'RE ON A FORUM DEDICATED TO NERD STUFF. ADMIT IT, EDDIE! YOU ARE A NERRRRRD 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thaidakar the Ghostblood he/him Posted February 22 Report Share Posted February 22 (edited) 37 minutes ago, Edema Rue said: NOOOOOOOOOO I'M NOT A NERD I JUST LIKE BOOKS Says the person who said "MY LIFE IS DEDICATED TO KVOTHE!" And who's username is a book thing. And who has various book quotes in their signature. And is in a book themed gladiatorial combat from a book themed role playing game on a forum website made for nerds of a very specific series let by the biggest nerds around. So... I think the evidence is pretty conclusive. Thou art a nerd, person named after the Edema Ruh. Edited February 22 by Thaidakar the Ghostblood 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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