The cheeseman Sola Scriptora Posted May 29 Report Share Posted May 29 Hullo! Being as vague as possible for the sake of privacy. There is a person in my life who often needs distractions from their own mind, and they almost always come to me for that. I don't mind, that's not the issue. The issue is that I don't know how to distract people. I've lived my whole life trying to make sure I'm not bothering people, and that is impacting my relationship with this person because I don't know how to just keep talking. It's also almost always over text that I need to do this, and I'm even worse at 'just talking' over text than I am in person. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quivil she/her Posted May 29 Report Share Posted May 29 (edited) This is coming from someone who is also bad at just talking, so take it with all the grains of salt. One thing that might help would be to, as you come up with stuff when they're not asking, make a list of words or short sentences that remind you of stories you can tell or things you can say. Or things that are completely unrelated to whatever in their mind they need distracting from that you can ask them about. Another option would be to talk about books you've read recently or something you saw or heard that was funny/interesting/aggravating. How well would telling them a folktale or something work? You could look up a huge amount of stuff about something random (like cheese) just so you can tell them about it. I really don't know, these are just ideas I had. Edited May 29 by Quivil 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jamesbondsmith He/him Posted May 30 Report Share Posted May 30 22 hours ago, The cheeseman said: Hullo! Being as vague as possible for the sake of privacy. There is a person in my life who often needs distractions from their own mind, and they almost always come to me for that. I don't mind, that's not the issue. The issue is that I don't know how to distract people. I've lived my whole life trying to make sure I'm not bothering people, and that is impacting my relationship with this person because I don't know how to just keep talking. It's also almost always over text that I need to do this, and I'm even worse at 'just talking' over text than I am in person. My friend got dumped over the phone several years ago, and the next day I went over and we played games (I think it might have been Injustice 2). So basically find some interest you have in common that doesn't involve talking and use that. Or at very least something that you can talk about while you're doing it, if you're worried about being able to talk about random stuff. Are you doing things via text because it's not possible to meet up physically? To follow the games example you could log onto a co-op game, and I know people who set up a phone call or some discord call type thing while they binge tv shows. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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