Shining Silhouette he/him Posted November 11, 2022 Report Share Posted November 11, 2022 3 minutes ago, CalanoCorvus said: *hugs* that's what would have happened to me, and is what I feared would happen when I asked out my girlfriend. I'm sorry you had to experience that, it sucks to be let down like that, I know. We're here for you, we love you. Are y'all still friends? And kudos to her for being kind about it We love that, even if it wasn't what you wanted. Thanks, Calano Yeah we're still friends I'm very sad 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Wandering Wizard he/him Posted November 11, 2022 Report Share Posted November 11, 2022 25 minutes ago, Shining Silhouette said: I asked out my best friend who I've been crushing on for almost a year. She let me down very gently and very kindly. My emotions are in shambles and I'm crushed They'll be that way for a bit. And I had a similar experience this year. I would have tried to stay friends with her but her family left. I'd say don't repeat my mistake and stay friends with her, because she seems a great friend to have. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Medium he/they Posted November 11, 2022 Report Share Posted November 11, 2022 1 minute ago, Shining Silhouette said: Thanks, Calano Yeah we're still friends I'm very sad I know you are. My PMs are open if you need to talk, but other than that, I'll leave you alone to process it. You'll be alright. Love you, bro. And, what Wizard said. Even if you can't date her, she seems like a really good friend. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
That1Cellist he/him Posted November 11, 2022 Report Share Posted November 11, 2022 2 hours ago, Shining Silhouette said: I asked out my best friend who I've been crushing on for almost a year. She let me down very gently and very kindly. My emotions are in shambles and I'm crushed *Hugs* You're amazing Silhouette. I love seeing you on the shard. You really helped me to feel at home here, even though I was a little scared at first. I don't really know what to say to comfort you with this specific situation. I worry that most of the things I could say have the potential to make you feel worse. I'll just reiterate the first point I made. You are amazing! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shining Silhouette he/him Posted November 11, 2022 Report Share Posted November 11, 2022 1 hour ago, The Wandering Wizard said: They'll be that way for a bit. And I had a similar experience this year. I would have tried to stay friends with her but her family left. I'd say don't repeat my mistake and stay friends with her, because she seems a great friend to have. She is. She's so incredible I'm genuinely worried I'll never find another person like her. We're going to stay friends. I'll make that happen for sure. But I can only wonder what if, you know? 1 hour ago, CalanoCorvus said: I know you are. My PMs are open if you need to talk, but other than that, I'll leave you alone to process it. You'll be alright. Love you, bro. And, what Wizard said. Even if you can't date her, she seems like a really good friend. Thanks Calano, love you too :D. Sometimes we just gotta cry for a bit while 54 minutes ago, That1Cellist said: *Hugs* You're amazing Silhouette. I love seeing you on the shard. You really helped me to feel at home here, even though I was a little scared at first. I don't really know what to say to comfort you with this specific situation. I worry that most of the things I could say have the potential to make you feel worse. I'll just reiterate the first point I made. You are amazing! Thanks, Cellist. I love seeing you too- makes me feel great to hear that I appreciate you and your thoughts! 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
That1Cellist he/him Posted November 11, 2022 Report Share Posted November 11, 2022 4 minutes ago, Shining Silhouette said: She is. She's so incredible I'm genuinely worried I'll never find another person like her. We're going to stay friends. I'll make that happen for sure. But I can only wonder what if, you know? Thanks Calano, love you too :D. Sometimes we just gotta cry for a bit while Thanks, Cellist. I love seeing you too- makes me feel great to hear that I appreciate you and your thoughts! Good luck to you, Silhouette. Go cry it out if you need to. I know I do sometimes. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Medium he/they Posted November 11, 2022 Report Share Posted November 11, 2022 man i wish i could cry :') 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Wandering Wizard he/him Posted November 11, 2022 Report Share Posted November 11, 2022 1 minute ago, CalanoCorvus said: man i wish i could cry :') Read all of the wheel of time 12 minutes ago, Shining Silhouette said: She is. She's so incredible I'm genuinely worried I'll never find another person like her. We're going to stay friends. I'll make that happen for sure. But I can only wonder what if, you know? I know how you feel. I wonder that about my friend all the time and even though I don't have a way to talk to her. I still wish her the best. And I also wonder what would it have been like if she had said yes. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Medium he/they Posted November 11, 2022 Report Share Posted November 11, 2022 Just now, The Wandering Wizard said: Read all of the wheel of time 14 minutes ago, Shining Silhouette said: that's not why and i have a loooong list of books before i could fit in Wheel of Time. i'm also just depressed and have been for like a week :3 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Wandering Wizard he/him Posted November 11, 2022 Report Share Posted November 11, 2022 2 minutes ago, CalanoCorvus said: that's not why and i have a loooong list of books before i could fit in Wheel of Time. i'm also just depressed and have been for like a week :3 I'll try to get a response in the clinic soon, but I've set a task for catching up in homework since I've been sick first. I hope that you'll find something to break you out of being depressed. It's not fun and we're here for you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Medium he/they Posted November 11, 2022 Report Share Posted November 11, 2022 Just now, The Wandering Wizard said: I'll try to get a response in the clinic soon, but I've set a task for catching up in homework since I've been sick first. I hope that you'll find something to break you out of being depressed. It's not fun and we're here for you. im just waiting until someone says something and i start sobbing. either that or i continue to bottle it up and just suffer :] 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Wandering Wizard he/him Posted November 11, 2022 Report Share Posted November 11, 2022 (edited) 2 minutes ago, CalanoCorvus said: either that or i continue to bottle it up and just suffer :] Don't bottle it up, that never works, never. At least from my experience it just leads to more problems and never helps anything. 2 minutes ago, CalanoCorvus said: im just waiting until someone says something and i start sobbing. Have you ever listened to A poor wayfarring man of grief? I found the video, but if you don't want to cry at school, don't watch it while your at school Spoiler Edited November 11, 2022 by The Wandering Wizard 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Medium he/they Posted November 11, 2022 Report Share Posted November 11, 2022 1 minute ago, The Wandering Wizard said: Don't bottle it up, that never works, never. At least from my experience it just leads to more problems and never helps anything. 2 minutes ago, CalanoCorvus said: :] 1 minute ago, The Wandering Wizard said: Don't bottle it up, that never works, never. At least from my experience it just leads to more problems and never helps anything. Have you ever listened to A poor wayfarring man of grief? no should i? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Wandering Wizard he/him Posted November 11, 2022 Report Share Posted November 11, 2022 Just now, CalanoCorvus said: no should i? YES! It is a church him though, just letting you know. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Szeth's Facepalm Posted November 11, 2022 Report Share Posted November 11, 2022 (edited) i'm sorry everyone is so sad hugs and brownies for all of you. here: Spoiler Edited November 11, 2022 by Szeth's Facepalm 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Medium he/they Posted November 11, 2022 Report Share Posted November 11, 2022 5 minutes ago, The Wandering Wizard said: YES! It is a church him though, just letting you know. funky 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Wandering Wizard he/him Posted November 11, 2022 Report Share Posted November 11, 2022 I've got you Szeth! Spoiler 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Szeth's Facepalm Posted November 11, 2022 Report Share Posted November 11, 2022 Just now, The Wandering Wizard said: I've got you Szeth! Hide contents awww le catto mine worked now :D 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Wandering Wizard he/him Posted November 11, 2022 Report Share Posted November 11, 2022 1 minute ago, Szeth's Facepalm said: mine worked now :D Three puppies, four ducklings and one very cute cat :D. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
InfiniteInsanity she/her Posted November 11, 2022 Report Share Posted November 11, 2022 32 minutes ago, CalanoCorvus said: im just waiting until someone says something and i start sobbing. either that or i continue to bottle it up and just suffer :] Oh. Wait. Okay. I get that. I get that a lot. But really don't bottle it up because it does make things worse or you get like numb and struggle to acknowledge emotions until it goes away. Which really falls under things getting worse. But yeah don't bottle it up please. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Medium he/they Posted November 11, 2022 Report Share Posted November 11, 2022 Ok i'm gonna be honest with you all. You all keep saying to not bottle it up, it's worse, it's awful. I don't know how. I don't know how not to bottle it up, I don't know how to process it and cry it out first. I've grown up under the social idea that "boys don't cry, you have to be manly, macho etc etc." I want to cry, I really do. But I do not know how. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Szeth's Facepalm Posted November 11, 2022 Report Share Posted November 11, 2022 26 minutes ago, CalanoCorvus said: Ok i'm gonna be honest with you all. You all keep saying to not bottle it up, it's worse, it's awful. I don't know how. I don't know how not to bottle it up, I don't know how to process it and cry it out first. I've grown up under the social idea that "boys don't cry, you have to be manly, macho etc etc." I want to cry, I really do. But I do not know how. You can let it out in other ways too. Crying aways makes me feel sick for some reason (i still do it, it just makes me feel like i'm going to throw up n sometimes it's hard to breath) so i try to let my feelings out in other ways instead, like drawing or journaling. Or just screaming into a pillow. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Medium he/they Posted November 11, 2022 Report Share Posted November 11, 2022 5 minutes ago, Szeth's Facepalm said: You can let it out in other ways too. Crying aways makes me feel sick for some reason (i still do it, it just makes me feel like i'm going to throw up n sometimes it's hard to breath) so i try to let my feelings out in other ways instead, like drawing or journaling. Or just screaming into a pillow. Crying is the only thing that makes it feel like it was worthwhile for me. It's the only thing that makes me feel like I got it out. And yet here I am, unable to even shed half a tear. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
InfiniteInsanity she/her Posted November 11, 2022 Report Share Posted November 11, 2022 1 minute ago, CalanoCorvus said: Crying is the only thing that makes it feel like it was worthwhile for me. It's the only thing that makes me feel like I got it out. And yet here I am, unable to even shed half a tear. I know. Crying really does feel like the best way to get everything out. And this might be another idea that you've already tried and doesn't work. But have you ever tried taking it out on your music? Just like playing/singing for a long time. Or practicing harder than normal. And if you haven't tried it this is something I've noticed helps me and I would recommend trying. And another thing I would recommend doing even if you've already tried it and it doesn't feel like its working, vent to people. Vent to your girlfriend, to your inperson friends, online friends. There don't need to be any tears for someone to take you seriously if you just can't take it anymore and need to just get it out. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Wandering Wizard he/him Posted November 12, 2022 Report Share Posted November 12, 2022 35 minutes ago, CalanoCorvus said: Crying is the only thing that makes it feel like it was worthwhile for me. It's the only thing that makes me feel like I got it out. And yet here I am, unable to even shed half a tear. I often find it hard to cry. Even when I cry I only shed a tear or two. I don't know why. I do more, mostly when I pray sometimes. Others I don't know why, music certainly does. I can't really cry at books much. Well I didn't when you know who died in RoW, but I cried when a character died in the wingfeather saga. Tell others the true and tears may come. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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